Perhaps you’ve used the classic
break-up line ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ and meant it.
It was you, but what was it with
you? Maybe you weren’t ready or maybe you said the wrong things or maybe
you gave up after the first fight. Whatever it is, we can learn from other’s
mistakes.
Here are 10 pieces of relationship
advice from a a guy who knows why it was him and not her.
1. Know
yourself to know when you are ready
Before you can be in a relationship
you need to start with yourself and know yourself.
Being in a relationship when you
don’t know yourself is like trying to dress a baby before it is even born. It
doesn’t work.
You don’t want to introduce yourself
to a girl and not know who you are introducing, do you?
And when you know yourself and like
yourself, you will know when you’re ready. (more after the cut)
2. Texting
If you are interested in or are
dating a girl and communicate mostly through texting, you’re doing it all
wrong. Texting at the right time and place can be great, but when overused can
hurt your relationship. Instead of using your phone to text her, use it to
speak to her.
Call her up, listen to her voice,
and have a conversation with her.
Don’t pick her up and then put her
down, and please don’t limit her to 160 characters.
3. Slow down
She’s beautiful. She’s smart. She’s
funny. She even likes your favorite sports team and can quote Dumb &
Dumber.
She is the girl of your dreams and
now you’re telling yourself she is the one.
SLOW DOWN.
Ask her out, get to know her, remain
patient.
She may be the one,
but remember, she doesn’t become the one until you said “I do.”
4. Admit, Apologize, &
Ask
You are going to make a mistake and
when you do man up!
Admit you were wrong.
Apologize for the wrong you did.
Ask her for forgiveness.
5. You don’t have to, you get
to.
You don’t have to date her, you get
to. It is nothing short of an honor that you get to be with her. Commit to
sacrifice and embrace it.
6. She
isn’t ____ (insert another girls name here).
No she isn’t.
Stop comparing her to the girl you
used to date or to other girls. She is who she is and cannot be anyone else! She
can only be herself and that is a beautiful thing.
7. Seek Advice
You are going to have questions and
it is important to ask them. Ask someone you trust and has successful
relationship experience for guidance. Seek advice from those more wise who can
help you think more clearly and challenge you to be more mature in your
relationship.
8. Relationships aren’t a fairytale
Relationships don’t always play out
like Pam and Jim or Jasmine and Aladdin.
There aren’t always candle light
dinners and there is hardly ever a magic carpet ride to show her the world. In
your relationship you will fight, disagree, doubt, and struggle.
You will want to give-up and
break-up, but one little bump doesn’t mean it’s time to call it quits. Those
bumps will strengthen your relationship, growing you two together to face what
is next.
9. Date with the intent to marry
Why do you want to be in a
relationship?
Because all of your friends are
getting married or because you’re tired of watching Netflix alone isn’t
considered a good reason. Date because you know you have love to offer and
can’t help but share it. Date because you are ready and are willing to make
sacrifices. Date with the intent to marry.
10. Pray. And don’t stop.
There is a good chance you prayed,
asking God to send you someone, and that’s great…
But don’t stop praying once you’ve
met someone! Pray for her and pray with her.
Continue to keep God the focus and
foundation of your relationship.
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