The Shortest Relationship of my Life, I was "Taken" for a Week

Somedays I just love the “no rush” type atmosphere of the city, the On Your Own lifestyle, other days I just want to pack my bags and run away to a far away land and find love. Personally I’ve been  single for 3years now and I must say I’ve had the best time of my life so far but as much as I want to seem like I don’t care, on the low low I’ve been searching for that one person that will make my heart skip a beat, just thinking about that person will make me smile and I came so close to this on the first week of February. I met a guy, he was everything I wanted, skinny, very good to look at, I mean everything  A okay. Until I saw his other side. (more after the cut)

It’s Complicated: Why Relationships and Dating Can Be So Hard

 

When you think about it, despite feeling difficult, the problems people struggle with in dating sound pretty trivial.

For instance, we have been walking and talking our entire lives, yet walking up to an attractive person and opening our mouths to say “hi” can feel impossibly complex to us. People have been using a phone since they were children, yet given the agony some go through just to dial a person’s phone number, you’d think they were being waterboarded. Most of us have kissed someone before and we’ve seen hundreds of movies and instances in real life of other people kissing, yet we still stare dreamily into the object of our affection’s eyes hour after hour, telling ourselves we can never find the “right moment” to do it.

Why? It sounds simple, but why is it so hard? (more after the cut)

Monday Inspiration: The Most Important Question of Your Life

                                 

Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.

Everyone would like that — it’s easy to like that.

If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything.

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence — but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blasé confines of an infinite cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, without the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth. (more after the cut)

Abuja Myth Busters on Replay--- Episode 2: "We do not all have sugar daddies"

As much as its the trend especially in a town like this, we need to clear the air. Please and please we don't all have sugar daddies. Some of us are working our asses off 8hrs a day 5days a week, looking for ushering jobs and whatever brings extra cash on the weekends. Not all of us have sugar daddies that spoil us and give us all the money we want, in fact if it's not work money, its either some friends are just nice and give us change from time to time or we have a bf who is trying to support too. Besides where dem dey find sugar daddy because if it was so easy maybe I fit done get by now but as dem no dey pluck for tree nko?

And please not everyone wants to ruin their life and face karma later by having to deal with our husband sleeping with young hotties or be going for deliverance from spirit husband, some of us still have values and self respect that money can't buy so when next you open your fat mouth to say all these girls have sugar daddies, Nna remember this post.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck (+18 Content has Strong Language)

                                    

In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And those fucks I have not given have made all the difference.

People often say the key to confidence and success in life is to simply “not give a fuck.” Indeed, we often refer to the strongest, most admirable people we know in terms of their lack of fucks given. Like “Oh, look at Susie working weekends again, she doesn’t give a fuck.” Or “Did you hear that Tom called the company president an asshole and still got a raise anyway? Holy shit, that dude does not give a fuck.” Or “Jason got up and ended his date with Cindy after 20 minutes. He said he wasn’t going to listen to her bullshit anymore. Man, that guy does not give a fuck.”

Chances are you know somebody in your life who, at one time or another, did not give a fuck and went on to accomplish amazing feats. Perhaps there was a time in your life where you simply did not give a fuck and excelled to some extraordinary heights. I know for myself, quitting my day job in finance after only six weeks and telling my boss that I was going to start selling dating advice online ranks pretty high up there in my own “didn’t give a fuck” hall of fame. Same with deciding to sell most of my possessions and move to South America. Fucks given? None. Just went and did it. (more after the cut)

Trippy Friday: Nightmare School (Ecstasy/LSD)

I would hope that it be first understood of my choice of title to what proceeds that no exaggeration is intended. This was my most horrific of dreams come to a vivid and fearsome life of its own.

This also happens to be the story of a fucking idiot.

I'll not waste the time of the reader detailing my past drug experiences (this account is long enough) suffice I've been a user of drugs at one time or another for nearly 15 years and have experimented with numerous substances, largely to positive and fondly remembered effect.

On this particular occasion I realized the truth behinds warnings associated with hallucinogenic experimentation and as such would and have extended these warnings to all with whom I converse on the topic.

Before I detail the experience in question I shall first give a short description of my very first attempt at LSD consumption. It was at a house party at my home in around 2001/2002 and involved the taking of one tab of acid. It was in general a new and interesting experience though half way through my trip I fell prey to a nervousness I was unfamiliar with that forced my hiding away in my bedroom for the rest of the night. A strange and unnerving time to be sure but not of the level associated with my next experience and as such, its warnings of the effects of LSD on my system went unheeded. (more after the cut)

Hey Guys!!! I'm Back!!!

            

Hey guys. First off I just want to say Sorry for the wait and its been really sad and hard for me not having to post anything on here for a while. A lot has happened in the past month which included me losing my job and a whole lot of other dramatic events in my life. It’s been rough but I’m taking it one day at a time and I’d do my best to keep you guys inspired and entertained as often as possible. Have a Blessed weekend.

REGULAR POSTS WILL BE BACK ASAP. PLEASE BEAR WITH ME!!!

Trippy Friday: One Full Week of Straight Hell! (MDMA aka Molly and Meth)

I had gone up to my boyfriend’s college to visit him Valentine’s Day weekend on Friday night. We had been doing MDMA on a pretty regular basis, and this weekend was to be no different. But drugs could not be found at the college so we took the 2 hour drive back to my hometown, borrowing my friend bill's car, to pick up some e and then go back. When we got to my friend's house who was hooking us up with the E, I was told that there was meth around. I was scared, I had never done meth and I knew that I was going to get the chance to that night. (more after the cut)

#TBT Abuja Post: Talk is Cheap, Sex is cheaper!!!

The truth is more bitter than alomo but I will say it.

One of the easiest things to get in Abuja is sex, it is not only cheap but it’s overly available at any time and place. Some at a cost, some for free, some even "without" (if you know, you know). In fact any type you want is here, threesomes, gay, lesbian, e full everywhere.

Here the rich men are the sugar daddy's, the rich women have boy toys, the rich men's daughters pay some broke men that don't have pride for sex, the rich men's sons are looking for osho free because they are cute.(more after the cut) 

ABL Health: 10 Relaxation Techniques That Zap Stress Fast

Relax. You deserve it, it's good for you, and it takes less time than you think.

You don't need a spa weekend or a retreat. Each of these stress-relieving tips can get you from OMG to om in less than 15 minutes.

1. Meditate

A few minutes of practice per day can help ease anxiety. “Research suggests that daily meditation may alter the brain’s neural pathways, making you more resilient to stress,” says psychologist Robbie Maller Hartman, PhD, a Chicago health and wellness coach.

It's simple. Sit up straight with both feet on the floor. Close your eyes. Focus your attention on reciting -- out loud or silently -- a positive mantra such as “I feel at peace” or “I love myself.” Place one hand on your belly to sync the mantra with your breaths. Let any distracting thoughts float by like clouds.(more after the cut)

Poetry Wednesday: Escape (a poem about finding freedom from our demons in this life)

                                            
stuck in place
frozen in time
but the cup
was always filling

running over now
regret spilling
to the floor—pooling
into foreboding puddles (more after the cut)

How to Develop and Strengthen Your Self-Control

                          

Self-control is the ability to control impulses and reactions, and is another name for self-discipline.

It is not some kind of negative and limiting behavior, as some people might think. When self-control is used wisely and with common sense, it becomes one of the most important tools for self improvement and for achieving success.

Self control is vital for overcoming obsessions, fears, addictions, and any kind of unsuitable behavior. It puts you in control of your life, your behavior, and your reactions. It improves your relationships, develops patience and tolerance, and is an important tool for attaining success and happiness. (more after the cut)

Monday Inspiration: Think Big, Dream Even Bigger

                                 

However "big" you're thinking right now, it's probably too small.

It's important to have big dreams for your future. After all, failing to plan is planning to fail. So if you can't think big about your future, you're not going to have a very big future. Big, of course, means a dream that takes you farther than where you are today.  

Success can be defined in many ways, and I'm not telling you how to define it. I'm simply saying to take your definition of success and raise the bar on it.

One thing I've learned over the years is that when you are thinking big, in reality you're thinking small. There's always a bigger big.

When I was in my mid-20s, I thought I was thinking big. But when I look back now, I realize, "Wow, was I thinking small! Too bad I wasn't thinking bigger. I would have accomplished more, faster." (more after the cut)

How to Experience God When You Feel Like a Nobody, Going Nowhere

  

Scripture: Psalm 139

Do you feel lonely, depressed or maybe just numb? Kinda bland, like you’re a nobody going nowhere? And down deep, you don’t think anyone cares about you? If so, join Chip as he shares how you can experience God when you feel like a nobody going nowhere.

How do you experience God when you feel like a nobody who is going nowhere? God’s got a plan. 1988, I had a two-year span of feeling like a nobody going nowhere.

I had made a five-year commitment to be at Country Bible Church and I finished my schooling, and we started out with about thirty-five people and God blessed and the church grew.

But in year number six, my commitment was over and, “Okay, God, well what do You want to do with my life?” And I loved it and the people were awesome and they loved me and they loved my family and it couldn’t have been a better place to live except I went to seminary after going through more school than I wanted to, to be a missionary. (more after the cut)

Trippy Friday: The Police Busted the Rapture (Mushrooms & Ecstasy)

For a long time I had always heard great things about hippie flipping. I've done countless pills, and I've shroomed several times. But I never tried them together! Well the first time I finally tried it was my last. The ecstasy was great, especially since I hadn't dropped in months. But it was the shrooms that made me totally and completely flip out. This experience has changed me in a eerie, strange way I can only attempt to explain.
It was a beautiful weekend in June, and I was at an awesome four-day camp out somewhat near Mammoth Lakes, California. The people throwing the party and the friends I came with were some of the most awesome people I've ever met. Sparing the details, the second night I had one Ecstasy pill and an eighth of Mushrooms. I wasn't sure if I wanted to hippie-flip, so first I just took half of my pill. I thought I'd take it from there. (more after the cut)

#TBT Abuja Post: So person no fit just decide to chill?

Abuja men why do u do this? You will never leave us alone why must you come and just kill the fun for us?
A woman leaves her house, dresses as she likes, goes to a bar, or garden, gets a drink and just sits there in peace or maybe with a friend. And una go come assume say person be okpo. But how u take know? (more after the cut)

ABL Health: Intractable Headache – The pain in Your Head that Just Won’t Quit

                                     

Intractable headache is "doctor speak" for that headache that just doesn’t seem to go away, not matter what you and your doctor do.  The headache may be Migraine or another kind of headache, or a combination of two or more different headache types, but regardless of the cause, it is a relentless, seemingly untreatable headache.

What is going on in your head when the pain is so resistant to treatment? It seems as if EVERYTHING seems to trigger the headache and nothing seems to help. Surprisingly, we don’t have a complete understanding of what changes are taking place in the brain of someone in this situation. We think that the brain of someone with constant, treatment-resistant pain actually processes information differently from the way people who don’t have constant pain.  There is very exciting research going on looking into these changes, but we don’t have definite answers yet. Like a car engine, you have to understand how it works before you can understand what is wrong with it, and you have to understand what is wrong with it before you can fix it. So that is where we are in terms of the big picture. (more after the cut)

What Guys Really Think About Sex on The First Date

                                            

How soon is too soon? Guys get honest with us about sex on the first date.

Times have changed, ladies, and with it, the dating rules. We're embarking on a new kind of relationship and with it, a newer type of woman. But as all the traditional rules change, should the sex?

How soon is too soon — or is it okay to ask for it on the first night? We asked the dudes in our lives to dish on when they think it's appropriate to do the deed — and their answers, well, they'll surprise you.(more after the cut)

Poetry Wednesday: Heaven or Hell (A poem about the uncertainty of the life we're in)

                                  
Demon or cherub…
you who held me fast?
against foes most fierce…
who gave me a name…
sword and shield—purpose to fight…(more after the cut)