7 Ground rules for rebound sex after a serious relationship

How to have rebound sex without complicating your love life

When you've just broken up with your longtime beau, sometimes all you want to do is rush out and be with someone else. Maybe it's because you felt stifled in your relationship and haven't been intimate with another guy for ages. Or it might be because you're heartbroken and want to get back at him, forget about him or both. But either way, there are some personal rules you should have for rebound sex after a serious relationship.

1. Don't go from one man to another

As tempting as it might be to bounce from guy to guy and bed to bed after a breakup, don't do it. You're setting yourself up for more heartbreak and another hit to your self-esteem if you do. "Beware of going from one man to another, like you might from one cookie in the jar to another," says Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D., a couples therapist in southern California and the author of Now You Want Me, Now You Don't!. "While it helps you not to get emotionally involved, you use up the resource and end up getting in a panic." (More after the cut)

People Cheat For these 2 reasons (marriages)

The 2 main categories of cheating are so disappointing

People cheat for every reason under the sun. We know this. But the most common reasons people cheat tend to fall into two main categories, according to science.The first reason a spouse might start looking at someone else has every thing to do with boredom. The sex doesn't even have to be bad. It just has to be rote. The same old week after week.

The other main reason people cheat is obvious: The marriage is bad."">“They don’t want to leave for various reasons — children, money, you name it — but they’re just sort of aching for something that’s emotionally reinforcing,” sex expert Pepper Schwartz told Yahoo. “And a lot of people use sex for that and pursue another relationship.”It makes a lot of sense. Marriage is hard. Relationships are difficult. People stray. (More after the cut)

15 Things Every Woman Should Know About Sex

1. Every woman has a surefire happy-makng position — find yours.

find an alternate use for your baby's exesaucer when she's asleep if it adds to the variety — but figure it out.

2. That position may change

Maybe in your misspent youth you were all about acrobatics and funky props, but now you strive for a deep connection with your guy. (Or maybe it's the other way around!) What you crave, both physically and emotionally, can shiftover time, says Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., a lnical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale School of Medicine. Pay attention to what you're feeling (or not feeling) and adapt to your new normal.

3. He doesn't have a flaw-o-meter

That would be you scanning your body for an errant pudge or a dimple in the wrong place. "During sexual arousal, men are experiencing such a neurochemical cocktail rush, they're really just caught up in the intoxication of it all," says REDBOOK Love Network expert and sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. In other words, he's too overwhelmed with joy to notice your "flaws." Put aside your body angst and you'll soon be having as much fun as he is.