We all aspire to do, be and have
great things. Yet most of us simply aren't creating the results we want. We
complain that we don't have enough money, romance, success or joy in our lives.
We point fingers and blame outside
problems that "happen" to us and make life more difficult. But what
we need to understand and keep at the forefront of our minds is that greatness
exists in all of us. It is simply up to us to pull it out of ourselves.
Regardless of personal circumstances, economic climates, and access to
resources, it helps to maintain faith in the fact we each are more powerful
than we think.
We all have the ability to create
the life we want. We just need to learn how to do it. Is there an exact
"formula"? No, but there are certain common features that successful
people exhibit and that anyone can practice. They are what can jumpstart your
success and attract what you want in life. You'd be hard pressed to find any
high achiever who doesn't live by the following 7 tips: (more after the cut)
1.
Take No Less than 100% Responsibility for Your Life
One of the greatest myths that is
pervasive in our culture today is that you are entitled to a great life and
that somehow, somewhere, someone is responsible for filling our lives with
continual happiness, exciting career options, nurturing family time and
blissful personal relationships simply because we exist. But the real truth is
that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live.
That person is you.
Everything about you is a result of
your doing or not doing. Income. Debt. Relationships. Health. Fitness level.
Attitudes and behaviors. That person who reflects back at you in the mirror is
the chief conductor in your life. Say hello!
I think everyone knows this in their
hearts, but the mind can play games, tricking plenty of people into thinking
external factors are the source of failure, disappointment, and unhappiness.
But the truth of the matter is that external factors don't determine how you
live. You are in complete control of the quality of your life.
Successful people take full
responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images they visualize, and the
actions they take. They don't waste their time and energy blaming and
complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change
them or not. They face the uncomfortable and take risks in order to create the
life they want to live.
2.
Be Clear Why You're Here
I believe each of us is born with a
life purpose. Identifying, acknowledging and honoring this purpose is perhaps
the most important action successful people take. They take the time to
understand what they're here to do, and then they pursue that with passion and
enthusiasm.
If you don't know what you're
supposed to be doing, then just tune in to the signals around you. Looking
toward others for help and guidance is helpful, but don't forget to stay tuned
in to yourself—your behavior, attitude, likes and dislikes, and life
experiences. Identify what's working and what isn't. If you need to, write it
all down. You might be surprised by what you discover.
3.
Decide What You Want
It sounds so simple, but here's the
problem: I see plenty of people who are overly-busy yet who feel unsatisfied
and unfulfilled. They are physically tired, spiritually drained, and far from
where they'd like to be—as if they've been running on a treadmill going nowhere
fast. Why? Because they haven't clearly mapped out what they want and then
taken the steps to get there. Rather than identifying specific goals,
milestones, and dreams (and I'm talking BIG dreams and goals here), they go
through the motions day in and day out tackling unimportant tasks. They end
up...you guessed it...going in circles and wasting lots of energy. In the
meanwhile, they grow increasingly uninspired and out of touch with their
authentic selves. This, of course, sets anyone up to living a life out of
balance.
One of the main reasons why most
people don't get what they want is they haven't decided what they want. They
haven't defined their desires in clear and compelling detail. What does success
look like to you? Not everybody's definition of success is the same, nor should
it be.
Don't let your inner devil's
advocate (or that incessant but unimportant To Do list) inhibit you from
dreaming big. As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your
subconscious creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen.
You'll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into
your life to make your dream come true. Big dreams not only inspire you, but
they also compel others to want to play big, too.
4.
Believe It Is Possible
Scientists used to believe that
humans responded to information flowing into the brain from the outside world.
But today, they're learning that instead we respond to what the brain, based on
previous experience, expects to happen next. In fact, the mind is such a
powerful instrument; it can deliver literally everything you want. But you have
to believe that what you want is possible.
As you commit to believing in
yourself, also make a commitment to toning down the complaint department. Look
at what you are complaining about. I'm fat. I'm tired. I can't get out of debt.
I won't ever get a better job. I can't stand the relationship I have with my
father. I'll never find a soulmate in life. Really examine your complaints.
More than likely you can do something about them. They are not about other
people, other things, or other events. They are about YOU.
5.
Believe in Yourself
If you are going to be successful in
creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that you are capable of
making it happen. Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence or
self-assurance, it is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes; the
abilities, inner resources, talents and skills to create your desired results.
Have unwavering faith in yourself,
for good and bad. Make the decision to believe that you create all your
experiences. You will experience successes thanks to you, and you will
experience pain, struggle, and strife thanks to you. Sounds a little strange,
but accepting this level of responsibility is uniquely empowering. It means you
can do, change, and be anything. Stumbling blocks become just that—little hills
to hop over.
6.
Become an Inverse Paranoid
This one is straightforward: Imagine
how much easier it would be to succeed in life if you were constantly expecting
the world to support you and bring you opportunity. Successful people do just that.
7.
Unleash the Power of Goal Setting
Experts on the science of success
know the brain is a goal-seeking organism. Whatever goal you give to your
subconscious mind, it will work day and night to achieve. To engage you
subconscious mind, a goal has to be measurable. When there aren't any criteria
for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, or a
good idea.
Sometimes we need to make just one
initial goal to get started, and that's okay. At least it comes with a few
actions to achieve. A first step simply can be making an immediate change in a
single area in your life. Are you unhappy about something that is happening
right now? Make requests that will make it more desirable to you, or take the
steps to change it yourself. Making a change might be uncomfortable and
overwhelming for you. It might mean you have to put in more time, money, and
effort. It might mean that someone gets upset about it, or makes you feel bad
about your decision. It might be difficult to change or leave a situation, but
staying put is your choice so why continue to complain? You can either do
something about it or not. It is your choice and you have responsibility for
your choices.
Bear in mind that you have to be
willing to change your behavior if you want a different outcome. You have to be
willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want. If you've already
taken an initial step in the right direction, now's the time to plan more steps
to keep moving you forward faster.
Isn't it a great relief to know that
you can make your life what you want it to be? Isn't it wonderful that your
successes do not depend on someone else?
So if you need just one thing to do
different today than you did yesterday, make it this: Commit to taking 100%
responsibility for every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step
at a time. Once you start the process you'll discover it is much easier to get
what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your
actions!
Have a Blessed Week and Stay Positive!!!
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