The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck (+18 Content has Strong Language)

                                    

In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And those fucks I have not given have made all the difference.

People often say the key to confidence and success in life is to simply “not give a fuck.” Indeed, we often refer to the strongest, most admirable people we know in terms of their lack of fucks given. Like “Oh, look at Susie working weekends again, she doesn’t give a fuck.” Or “Did you hear that Tom called the company president an asshole and still got a raise anyway? Holy shit, that dude does not give a fuck.” Or “Jason got up and ended his date with Cindy after 20 minutes. He said he wasn’t going to listen to her bullshit anymore. Man, that guy does not give a fuck.”

Chances are you know somebody in your life who, at one time or another, did not give a fuck and went on to accomplish amazing feats. Perhaps there was a time in your life where you simply did not give a fuck and excelled to some extraordinary heights. I know for myself, quitting my day job in finance after only six weeks and telling my boss that I was going to start selling dating advice online ranks pretty high up there in my own “didn’t give a fuck” hall of fame. Same with deciding to sell most of my possessions and move to South America. Fucks given? None. Just went and did it. (more after the cut)

Trippy Friday: Nightmare School (Ecstasy/LSD)

I would hope that it be first understood of my choice of title to what proceeds that no exaggeration is intended. This was my most horrific of dreams come to a vivid and fearsome life of its own.

This also happens to be the story of a fucking idiot.

I'll not waste the time of the reader detailing my past drug experiences (this account is long enough) suffice I've been a user of drugs at one time or another for nearly 15 years and have experimented with numerous substances, largely to positive and fondly remembered effect.

On this particular occasion I realized the truth behinds warnings associated with hallucinogenic experimentation and as such would and have extended these warnings to all with whom I converse on the topic.

Before I detail the experience in question I shall first give a short description of my very first attempt at LSD consumption. It was at a house party at my home in around 2001/2002 and involved the taking of one tab of acid. It was in general a new and interesting experience though half way through my trip I fell prey to a nervousness I was unfamiliar with that forced my hiding away in my bedroom for the rest of the night. A strange and unnerving time to be sure but not of the level associated with my next experience and as such, its warnings of the effects of LSD on my system went unheeded. (more after the cut)

Hey Guys!!! I'm Back!!!

            

Hey guys. First off I just want to say Sorry for the wait and its been really sad and hard for me not having to post anything on here for a while. A lot has happened in the past month which included me losing my job and a whole lot of other dramatic events in my life. It’s been rough but I’m taking it one day at a time and I’d do my best to keep you guys inspired and entertained as often as possible. Have a Blessed weekend.

REGULAR POSTS WILL BE BACK ASAP. PLEASE BEAR WITH ME!!!

Trippy Friday: One Full Week of Straight Hell! (MDMA aka Molly and Meth)

I had gone up to my boyfriend’s college to visit him Valentine’s Day weekend on Friday night. We had been doing MDMA on a pretty regular basis, and this weekend was to be no different. But drugs could not be found at the college so we took the 2 hour drive back to my hometown, borrowing my friend bill's car, to pick up some e and then go back. When we got to my friend's house who was hooking us up with the E, I was told that there was meth around. I was scared, I had never done meth and I knew that I was going to get the chance to that night. (more after the cut)

#TBT Abuja Post: Talk is Cheap, Sex is cheaper!!!

The truth is more bitter than alomo but I will say it.

One of the easiest things to get in Abuja is sex, it is not only cheap but it’s overly available at any time and place. Some at a cost, some for free, some even "without" (if you know, you know). In fact any type you want is here, threesomes, gay, lesbian, e full everywhere.

Here the rich men are the sugar daddy's, the rich women have boy toys, the rich men's daughters pay some broke men that don't have pride for sex, the rich men's sons are looking for osho free because they are cute.(more after the cut) 

ABL Health: 10 Relaxation Techniques That Zap Stress Fast

Relax. You deserve it, it's good for you, and it takes less time than you think.

You don't need a spa weekend or a retreat. Each of these stress-relieving tips can get you from OMG to om in less than 15 minutes.

1. Meditate

A few minutes of practice per day can help ease anxiety. “Research suggests that daily meditation may alter the brain’s neural pathways, making you more resilient to stress,” says psychologist Robbie Maller Hartman, PhD, a Chicago health and wellness coach.

It's simple. Sit up straight with both feet on the floor. Close your eyes. Focus your attention on reciting -- out loud or silently -- a positive mantra such as “I feel at peace” or “I love myself.” Place one hand on your belly to sync the mantra with your breaths. Let any distracting thoughts float by like clouds.(more after the cut)

Poetry Wednesday: Escape (a poem about finding freedom from our demons in this life)

                                            
stuck in place
frozen in time
but the cup
was always filling

running over now
regret spilling
to the floor—pooling
into foreboding puddles (more after the cut)

How to Develop and Strengthen Your Self-Control

                          

Self-control is the ability to control impulses and reactions, and is another name for self-discipline.

It is not some kind of negative and limiting behavior, as some people might think. When self-control is used wisely and with common sense, it becomes one of the most important tools for self improvement and for achieving success.

Self control is vital for overcoming obsessions, fears, addictions, and any kind of unsuitable behavior. It puts you in control of your life, your behavior, and your reactions. It improves your relationships, develops patience and tolerance, and is an important tool for attaining success and happiness. (more after the cut)

Monday Inspiration: Think Big, Dream Even Bigger

                                 

However "big" you're thinking right now, it's probably too small.

It's important to have big dreams for your future. After all, failing to plan is planning to fail. So if you can't think big about your future, you're not going to have a very big future. Big, of course, means a dream that takes you farther than where you are today.  

Success can be defined in many ways, and I'm not telling you how to define it. I'm simply saying to take your definition of success and raise the bar on it.

One thing I've learned over the years is that when you are thinking big, in reality you're thinking small. There's always a bigger big.

When I was in my mid-20s, I thought I was thinking big. But when I look back now, I realize, "Wow, was I thinking small! Too bad I wasn't thinking bigger. I would have accomplished more, faster." (more after the cut)

How to Experience God When You Feel Like a Nobody, Going Nowhere

  

Scripture: Psalm 139

Do you feel lonely, depressed or maybe just numb? Kinda bland, like you’re a nobody going nowhere? And down deep, you don’t think anyone cares about you? If so, join Chip as he shares how you can experience God when you feel like a nobody going nowhere.

How do you experience God when you feel like a nobody who is going nowhere? God’s got a plan. 1988, I had a two-year span of feeling like a nobody going nowhere.

I had made a five-year commitment to be at Country Bible Church and I finished my schooling, and we started out with about thirty-five people and God blessed and the church grew.

But in year number six, my commitment was over and, “Okay, God, well what do You want to do with my life?” And I loved it and the people were awesome and they loved me and they loved my family and it couldn’t have been a better place to live except I went to seminary after going through more school than I wanted to, to be a missionary. (more after the cut)

Trippy Friday: The Police Busted the Rapture (Mushrooms & Ecstasy)

For a long time I had always heard great things about hippie flipping. I've done countless pills, and I've shroomed several times. But I never tried them together! Well the first time I finally tried it was my last. The ecstasy was great, especially since I hadn't dropped in months. But it was the shrooms that made me totally and completely flip out. This experience has changed me in a eerie, strange way I can only attempt to explain.
It was a beautiful weekend in June, and I was at an awesome four-day camp out somewhat near Mammoth Lakes, California. The people throwing the party and the friends I came with were some of the most awesome people I've ever met. Sparing the details, the second night I had one Ecstasy pill and an eighth of Mushrooms. I wasn't sure if I wanted to hippie-flip, so first I just took half of my pill. I thought I'd take it from there. (more after the cut)

#TBT Abuja Post: So person no fit just decide to chill?

Abuja men why do u do this? You will never leave us alone why must you come and just kill the fun for us?
A woman leaves her house, dresses as she likes, goes to a bar, or garden, gets a drink and just sits there in peace or maybe with a friend. And una go come assume say person be okpo. But how u take know? (more after the cut)

ABL Health: Intractable Headache – The pain in Your Head that Just Won’t Quit

                                     

Intractable headache is "doctor speak" for that headache that just doesn’t seem to go away, not matter what you and your doctor do.  The headache may be Migraine or another kind of headache, or a combination of two or more different headache types, but regardless of the cause, it is a relentless, seemingly untreatable headache.

What is going on in your head when the pain is so resistant to treatment? It seems as if EVERYTHING seems to trigger the headache and nothing seems to help. Surprisingly, we don’t have a complete understanding of what changes are taking place in the brain of someone in this situation. We think that the brain of someone with constant, treatment-resistant pain actually processes information differently from the way people who don’t have constant pain.  There is very exciting research going on looking into these changes, but we don’t have definite answers yet. Like a car engine, you have to understand how it works before you can understand what is wrong with it, and you have to understand what is wrong with it before you can fix it. So that is where we are in terms of the big picture. (more after the cut)

What Guys Really Think About Sex on The First Date

                                            

How soon is too soon? Guys get honest with us about sex on the first date.

Times have changed, ladies, and with it, the dating rules. We're embarking on a new kind of relationship and with it, a newer type of woman. But as all the traditional rules change, should the sex?

How soon is too soon — or is it okay to ask for it on the first night? We asked the dudes in our lives to dish on when they think it's appropriate to do the deed — and their answers, well, they'll surprise you.(more after the cut)

Poetry Wednesday: Heaven or Hell (A poem about the uncertainty of the life we're in)

                                  
Demon or cherub…
you who held me fast?
against foes most fierce…
who gave me a name…
sword and shield—purpose to fight…(more after the cut)

Who I Am, Who I Was, And Who I Will Be

  

“Life is not out to get you despite the things you have been through.”

Do you know what depression is? Is it just another word for sadness? Sure, it’s that feeling you get when your childhood dog passes away, or that sting in your heart when the person you love most turns their back on you. But what is it really? Most people only view “depression” as a temporary feeling, a state of sadness, but what if I told you it was more than that; more than a feeling of sadness? What if it was a constant state of isolation and pain, like you had the weight of a thousand bricks sitting upon your chest and not one person noticed? Would it still be considered a feeling or something more? These are questions I asked myself over and over again while I tried to figure out why I was so unhappy. Depression, to an extent, is no longer considered a feeling, it is a disorder. But of course, nobody ever wants to think much less admit they have a disorder so they pretend it’s not there. They go on with their melancholy lives and deal with the pain. This had to be my biggest mistake. Pretending nothing was wrong. (more after the cut)

8 Tips to Improve Your Self-Control

                               

Whether you call it willpower, discipline, or self-control, regulating your own impulses--particularly in the face of tempting diversions--is really hard to do.

It’s also something I could stand to work on. Perseverance I have in spades; when I make up my mind to get something done, it will get done. But along the way, I often find myself either standing in front of the open fridge, or realizing, too late, that I’ve lost half an hour of my life to YouTube. Again.

Other noble tasks that strain our self-control? According to comments from Savvy listeners on Facebook, our self-control fails include keeping up with housework, getting to bed at a decent hour, sticking to a healthy lifestyle, resisting that impulse buy, being nice to difficult people, getting out the door on time, and staying clean, sober, or smoke-free. (more after the cut)

Relationship Problem: Money (How to Solve it)

                                       

Money problems can start even before the wedding vows are exchanged. They can stem, for example, from the expenses of courtship or from the high cost of a wedding. The National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC) recommends that couples who have money woes take a deep breath and have a serious conversation about finances.(more after the cut)

HAPPY NEW MONTH GUYS, WELCOME TO MARCH!!!

                  

Welcome to the month of March everyone, in this new month I wish you all the push and the drive you need to chase your dreams, the patience to not give up and the grace to enjoy the journey until you arrive your destination. Love you guys. 

If your birthday is this month, send your date to howtoliveinabuja@gmail.com so I can wish you a happy birthday and you can locate your birthday mate as well. Love you guys. God bless you and your loved ones and protect you all.