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7. You’ve been Hurt
Many single women reading this
remain single or in dead-end relationships because you have been hurt in your
past. This hurt can be from a previous relationship, previous situation with a
man, or sexual abuse. Some of the first six reasons I listed are just
manifestations of that same hurt you are holding on to. You now operate with
walls up to protect you, but it is those same walls that continue to block the
blessings you deserve to receive. I understand how difficult it can be to move
on from these things, but if you are ever to move in the right direction as
well as into a new healthy relationship, you must begin with forgiveness. Start
the process of letting the pain go and watch how things improve. (more after the cut)
8. You keep entertaining the “wrong
guy”
You know he isn’t the one for you
yet you continue to entertain this man and his nonsense. He isn’t even giving
you a full commitment but yet you are giving him all the benefits of a real
relationship. How do you expect to ever find the “right guy” when you ALLOW
yourself to continuously deal with the “wrong guy”? You want a relationship,
but you let this (single or taken) man continue to take from you without having
to fully give you what you desire in return. You can continue to sell
yourself short, but do not complain or be surprised when you find yourself
still single and more emotionally damaged than you were before.
9. Your too busy enjoying the
“Single Life”
You’re just having too much fun
living it up. Maybe you like to come and go as you please. Maybe you enjoy the
free meals, outings, and for some, the bills that get paid from your “guy
friends”. If those are your reasons, I get it, but just make sure that
you aren’t using that as a front. Many women claim to love the “single life” but
in a heartbeat they would trade it in for a genuine relationship. Yes, you
should enjoy yourself while you’re single, but that does not mean you have to
act like you enjoy being single. I hope you understand the difference. If your
attitude or words say “I love being single” then understand that this will
impact a man’s willingness to come at you with something more serious. Have
fun, but be true to yourself and what you really desire.
10. You lack “positive energy”
This is different from #1 on the
list “acting like a b**ch”. Some of you may not be negative or mean, but you
still don’t give off any positive energy. If you were a light bulb, you would
be a flickering light at best. Some of this is due to lack of self-esteem,
unresolved issues that have sapped your strength, or just taking on too much to
the point where you are beat down and worn out. Whatever the reason is, that
inability to “shine bright” makes it hard for a man to be drawn to you. Whether
we show it or not, we have enough issues as it is. So if you don’t seem like a
source of enjoyment, or just come off as a big bag of issues. We won’t be so
willing to be with you. We all have things we need to deal with, but make sure
you exude some confidence and positive vibes to increase your chances of finding
the right guy.
11. You haven’t met “that guy”
Shout out to the ladies that don’t
settle. Shout out to the ladies that understand that if he isn’t the right guy
for you, then forcing a relationship is pointless. I applaud you and I hope
more women would take that path. The reality is, just because you meet a “good
guy” that doesn’t mean he is the “right guy”. Continue to be patient, but make
sure that the reason you haven’t met him isn’t due to unfair requirements you
have set. If “that guy” is defined by his job, car, income bracket, and things
of that nature then good luck with that. Those things make finding him harder,
and personally I think you should focus on finding a man you connect with.
Without that connection, “that guy” will easily become “that ex” in due time.
12. You Are Waiting On GOD
There are many women who say they
are just going to trust GOD and let him bring them a man. That is great, but
there is a slight problem with that. Many of those same women take an approach
of not doing anything to facilitate the process. They wait on GOD to deliver a
man as if they are waiting on a shipment from FedEx. You still have to
recognize what it is you are or are not doing correctly. If you choose to trust
GOD to bring you a man, how about finding out what GOD needs you to do to get
that man. Because if you are not the woman you need to be then you may find
yourself waiting, and waiting, and waiting. Not because GOD can’t do his part,
but because you haven’t truly tapped into doing your part.
If you are a single and after
reading all 12 reasons you can say none of this applies to you, then I
challenge you to get an outside opinion on if that is true. Many women can
swear that there is nothing they are doing wrong, but the reality is that there
is plenty you can do better. Be honest with yourself, and do what is necessary
to become the woman you need to be. This article isn’t about telling women they
need to be in a relationship, but if you truly would like to be in one, then
understand what may be potentially holding you back. If you feel I missed
anything, or disagree with the list, please leave a comment.
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