The Shortest Relationship of my Life, I was "Taken" for a Week

Somedays I just love the “no rush” type atmosphere of the city, the On Your Own lifestyle, other days I just want to pack my bags and run away to a far away land and find love. Personally I’ve been  single for 3years now and I must say I’ve had the best time of my life so far but as much as I want to seem like I don’t care, on the low low I’ve been searching for that one person that will make my heart skip a beat, just thinking about that person will make me smile and I came so close to this on the first week of February. I met a guy, he was everything I wanted, skinny, very good to look at, I mean everything  A okay. Until I saw his other side. (more after the cut)

It’s Complicated: Why Relationships and Dating Can Be So Hard

 

When you think about it, despite feeling difficult, the problems people struggle with in dating sound pretty trivial.

For instance, we have been walking and talking our entire lives, yet walking up to an attractive person and opening our mouths to say “hi” can feel impossibly complex to us. People have been using a phone since they were children, yet given the agony some go through just to dial a person’s phone number, you’d think they were being waterboarded. Most of us have kissed someone before and we’ve seen hundreds of movies and instances in real life of other people kissing, yet we still stare dreamily into the object of our affection’s eyes hour after hour, telling ourselves we can never find the “right moment” to do it.

Why? It sounds simple, but why is it so hard? (more after the cut)

Monday Inspiration: The Most Important Question of Your Life

                                 

Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.

Everyone would like that — it’s easy to like that.

If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything.

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence — but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blasé confines of an infinite cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, without the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth. (more after the cut)

Abuja Myth Busters on Replay--- Episode 2: "We do not all have sugar daddies"

As much as its the trend especially in a town like this, we need to clear the air. Please and please we don't all have sugar daddies. Some of us are working our asses off 8hrs a day 5days a week, looking for ushering jobs and whatever brings extra cash on the weekends. Not all of us have sugar daddies that spoil us and give us all the money we want, in fact if it's not work money, its either some friends are just nice and give us change from time to time or we have a bf who is trying to support too. Besides where dem dey find sugar daddy because if it was so easy maybe I fit done get by now but as dem no dey pluck for tree nko?

And please not everyone wants to ruin their life and face karma later by having to deal with our husband sleeping with young hotties or be going for deliverance from spirit husband, some of us still have values and self respect that money can't buy so when next you open your fat mouth to say all these girls have sugar daddies, Nna remember this post.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck (+18 Content has Strong Language)

                                    

In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And those fucks I have not given have made all the difference.

People often say the key to confidence and success in life is to simply “not give a fuck.” Indeed, we often refer to the strongest, most admirable people we know in terms of their lack of fucks given. Like “Oh, look at Susie working weekends again, she doesn’t give a fuck.” Or “Did you hear that Tom called the company president an asshole and still got a raise anyway? Holy shit, that dude does not give a fuck.” Or “Jason got up and ended his date with Cindy after 20 minutes. He said he wasn’t going to listen to her bullshit anymore. Man, that guy does not give a fuck.”

Chances are you know somebody in your life who, at one time or another, did not give a fuck and went on to accomplish amazing feats. Perhaps there was a time in your life where you simply did not give a fuck and excelled to some extraordinary heights. I know for myself, quitting my day job in finance after only six weeks and telling my boss that I was going to start selling dating advice online ranks pretty high up there in my own “didn’t give a fuck” hall of fame. Same with deciding to sell most of my possessions and move to South America. Fucks given? None. Just went and did it. (more after the cut)

Trippy Friday: Nightmare School (Ecstasy/LSD)

I would hope that it be first understood of my choice of title to what proceeds that no exaggeration is intended. This was my most horrific of dreams come to a vivid and fearsome life of its own.

This also happens to be the story of a fucking idiot.

I'll not waste the time of the reader detailing my past drug experiences (this account is long enough) suffice I've been a user of drugs at one time or another for nearly 15 years and have experimented with numerous substances, largely to positive and fondly remembered effect.

On this particular occasion I realized the truth behinds warnings associated with hallucinogenic experimentation and as such would and have extended these warnings to all with whom I converse on the topic.

Before I detail the experience in question I shall first give a short description of my very first attempt at LSD consumption. It was at a house party at my home in around 2001/2002 and involved the taking of one tab of acid. It was in general a new and interesting experience though half way through my trip I fell prey to a nervousness I was unfamiliar with that forced my hiding away in my bedroom for the rest of the night. A strange and unnerving time to be sure but not of the level associated with my next experience and as such, its warnings of the effects of LSD on my system went unheeded. (more after the cut)

Hey Guys!!! I'm Back!!!

            

Hey guys. First off I just want to say Sorry for the wait and its been really sad and hard for me not having to post anything on here for a while. A lot has happened in the past month which included me losing my job and a whole lot of other dramatic events in my life. It’s been rough but I’m taking it one day at a time and I’d do my best to keep you guys inspired and entertained as often as possible. Have a Blessed weekend.